Commandment #9: Own a Mirror & Use It Often
If you saw a person staring into a mirror for a long period of time, you'd think they were vain or narcissistic.
But the truth is that mirrors are part of our everyday lives… but they are more than just a tool for grooming.
They are literally for self-reflection. The type of self-reflection that requires a deeper look into yourself and why you want to be a trader.
If you want to be a master trader, you need to master self-awareness, self-respect, and your strengths.
And it all starts with looking yourself in the mirror everyday.
This way, you will know what is missing, what needs improvement and how to live your truth as a trader.
Now if you struggle with self-esteem or don't like what you see (either physically or mentally)...
Then this is the perfect time to address that issue and finally do something about it.
Are you ready?
Push Back on Your Self-Doubt Through Action
If you're really unhappy with yourself in the mirror, then you're really stunting your growth-mindset as a trader.
And maybe looking in the mirror could be a bad idea. But not being able to face and address your insecurities is much worse.
It could be you don't like that scar, mole or that extra bit of fat around problem areas. It could be something deeper.
And whatever we focus on expands.
So if you're looking at yourself through the lens of self-doubt or disgust, you will only end up resenting yourself more.
And dwelling on what you can't control about your body and mind is unhelpful.
So focus on what you can control with a solution in mind. It's part of taking accountability for yourself.
If you know your weight gain is because of your diet and not some medical condition, then take the necessary steps to fix it.
If you've been feeling negative emotions for a long time then open up to someone you trust about them.
This comes naturally to bodybuilders. It's easy to think they are big dumb jocks with shallow values but they are actually assessing what could be improved as they twist and show off their guns.
They've either seen gains or potential and stand proudly in front of themselves, ready to make the necessary adjustments.
So how can you make these adjustments yourself?
Write Down Ten Things You Like About Yourself and Attach it to Your Mirror
This may feel awkward especially if you struggle with confidence but you need to write down ten things you like about yourself.
Why?
Because winning traders are confident people. Period. Whether it comes naturally or through practice. They know what they do very well.
All winning traders carry themselves with certainty. Just look at Gordon Gekko or Jordan Belfort from "The Wolf of Wall Street" (granted, they did some unethical things but their confidence was undeniable).
Writing down what you like about yourself and attaching it to the mirror will:
- Reaffirm yourself and your abilities
- Document your value
- Push back on negative thoughts and self-doubt
Remember that you are an individual and will continue to grow. So remember to update the list as you learn more things you like about yourself.
Keep the qualities you like the most and change the things that have improved over time as needed.
Respect The New You
Now that you've listed ten things about yourself, you've given yourself a new and positive perspective about the person standing in front of you. Look at yourself.
Don't you think this person deserves respect, recognition, and self-care?
Hopefully, you agree. So show respect to yourself by:
- Smiling at the person and saying "Hi"
- Thanking yourself
- Saying "I Love You"
- Taking care of your body. (Wash your face, shave, brush your teeth, shower, exercise, etc.)
It's okay if you think this is corny or some hokey "self-care" nonsense.
But mirrors are necessary for cultivating confidence. And creating respect for yourself doesn't happen without taking actionable steps.
You Need to Be Your Own Best Friend
Owning a mirror and looking into it everyday is so important because it makes self-reflection easier.
Even if you don't like what you see, it becomes the first step in your journey by creating a new and wonderful outlook for yourself. Confidence needs to be practiced through reflection and action.
Make it a constant reminder and keep that list handy. And remember this wonderful person deserves respect, compassion, and care.
Continue to take that action by staying true to that list and holding yourself accountable. You should be your own best friend and make any positive change.
And it has to start with you.
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